The following is a guest post by Marcello Arrambide.
Editor’s Note: Since being published in April 2011, this post has gone on to be one of the blog’s most popular, and controversial. Due to some of the comments, we’ve temporarily removed the photos of Medellin women that appeared here, and are searching for alternatives.
My current around the world trip has led me to the booming city of Medellin, Colombia.
I have been living in Medellin now for a full week and while there is always a game when it comes to men and women, the dynamic is much different in Medellin (and all of Colombia).
First, let me start off by saying that the Medellin women are not pretty, they are gorgeous.
After you read this post I would encourage you to see the pics of Colombian Models (tempting isn’t it?).
If you ask most men and women (even Colombians), they will gladly say that the most beautiful women come from Medellin and Cali.
When I first arrived in Medellin, my neck was sore from looking left and right at all the beautiful women on the streets.
By the time the day was over, I didn’t bother looking at most of the women because I knew there would be more on the next street.
Beauty is not hard to find in Colombia, but what about everything else?
Disclaimer: This is not all women in Colombia but my impression of most of them in the first week that I have been here.
Battle Between Women
On more than one occasion I have noticed that there is a fierce competition between Medellin women.
As soon as two women meet each other they resentfully check each other out, starting with the shoes of course. They ask each other questions to which they don’t care what the answer is and put up with each other when they have to.
Colombian culture is based heavily on appearance which is why it is one of the plastic surgery capitals of the world; nose jobs, liposuction, boob jobs, and yes, even butt jobs. Hard Buns anyone?
Don’t Be Shy
In most parts of the world women are very shy. They do not make the first move and always expect the men to do the first approach.
There are always exceptions, the only places I have been where the women are very forward and aggressive (they approach first) are in New York City and Europe.
Medellin women are not forward, but they let you know very clearly what they want.
If you are out at a bar or club they will go out of their way to make eye contact and keep doing so until you approach them.
Once you approach they have a way of endearing themselves to you very quickly.
They often use words and phrases that make the manliest of men want to turn a Colombian into a housewife (kidding.. kind of).
They not only charm you with their words, they also are extremely affectionate.
Women are very approachable so there is no need to let your insecurity control you. If you like a woman, go up and talk to her, there’s a 90% chance she’ll like your company.
First Dates & Gender Roles
The debate is out there whether you should kiss on the first date or not. In Colombia, every women that I have asked says that kisses on the first date don’t usually happen.
What they don’t mention is that if you have white skin, light eyes, and are considered as Gringo as a Ford F-150, then you will kiss on the first date. If you didn’t know, Gringo is King in Colombia.
Colombian women are very old fashioned.
They are not going to be interested in you if you consider a first date to include romantic music in the back seat of your car. They expect to be taken out and shown a good time.
This could include a dinner, lunch, and even a Paisa’s (paisa = person from Medellin) favorite, salsa dancing.
Disclaimer: They don’t strive to be Beyonce “independent women” status in Medellin, women are very old fashioned and expect you to pay. Yes that includes their taxi ride home.
Calls & Texts
Most people in Colombia have prepaid cell phones.
They load their phones with credit to use text messages and make phone calls.
What you don’t know is that no one ever has any credit.
Don’t get excited when you get a girls phone number because there is no sexting (text sex).
When you send a woman a text, she won’t respond…that costs money.
If she calls you, she will hang up right away because that costs money.
The best way to interact is via old fashioned phone calls, or my personal favorite, MSN Messenger (and increasingly, Facebook or Skype).
The climate in Medellin is almost the same throughout the entire year. Medellin is located near the Equator, and also is in a valley which contributes to the constant Spring-like climate.
Women are usually dressed in jeans whenever they go out. Sandals are also a no-no unless, you want to be considered a tourist in Medellin.
[Editor's Note: check out A Woman's Guide to the Medellin Look for more commentary on ladies fashion here.]
So there you have it ladies and gentlemen! Rules of the game presented to you by a person who has only been here a week! If you don’t believe any of the things in this article I would encourage you to visit Medellin.
My first week has been nothing short of amazing and I can’t wait to share my thoughts on the bustling city once my time is up.
About the Author: Marcello has been working for freedom his entire life. He’s unlocked the secret through day trading and now wanders the world. He has lived in 7 countries spanning 3 continents and has even visited the elusive Antarctica. You can find him on his blog, Wandering Trader, Twitter @Wanderingtrad and Facebook.
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